Attitude Inventory Assessment
Please complete the ATTITUDE INVENTORY at this time. Your answers to these questions represent a large portion of your overall stress level. Complete the questionnaire to measure your reaction to internal and external stressors then follow the instructions listed in your overall score results.
- Do you have realistic expectations of yourself and others?
- Are you a perfectionist?
- Are you a victim, play the blame game?
- Do you feel guilty when you have to say “no”?
It has been said that: “Attitude is everything!” When reflecting on why we feel stressed and anxious, most of us look outside. We look at other people, institutions, work places and family for the reasons for our distress. The following evaluation will give you an opportunity for insight into the role your basic thinking plays in your level of anxiety.
As you read each statement, consider it not on an intellectual level, but by your emotional and physical response when you make that statement. For example: Number 9,“I do not like to fail!” Intellectually you may know that we all “fail” and this is a part of life. But when you make the judgment that you failed, how does your stomach feel? Do you go over this “failure” again and again? For weeks, months, years? How does your head feel? What is your tension level? Reflecting in this manner, circle a one, two, three or four. Respond quickly; do not analyze! Your first response is usually the most accurate. Read each of the following statements. The stronger you feel about the statement, the higher the number you should choose.
This self-evaluation inventory may help you see that it is your attitude, inner beliefs, and your picture of how life should be that is causing most of your anxiety. It is impossible for things to always “be fair.” You may have known this intellectually, but this evaluation measures your response and therefore, stress level, when you mentally stomp your feet and say, “It’s not fair!
I am a good person. I follow all the rules. I don’t deserve this!”
It is your attitude and subsequent reaction process. You can be taught to see life experiences in a different way.
Most of the statements on this inventory are ridiculous, perfectionist, anxiety producing statements. If you are trying to live with these statements and beliefs, you are asking for anxiety and stress. You can be taught to let go of this type of thinking.
THIS EVALUATION ALSO HIGHLIGHTS FOUR THINKING THEMES:
If you chose a 3 or 4 on statements 1,4,5,7 and 9, you may be a perfectionist.
Think about the anxiety it produces to always want perfection when in reality there is no “perfect.” We constantly live in the “never arrive” state. When you think that in order for something to be done correctly you’d better do it yourself, two things happen. You end up doing all the work and those you were unable to delegate to also feel disempowered, untrustworthy and inadequate. You’ll want to pay special attention to Sessions 3, 4, 6, 7, 8, 9 and 13 in the Attacking Anxiety & Depression Program.
If you chose a 3 or 4 on statements 3,6,8,10,11,12, and 14, you need to work on being more assertive.
You can learn how to stand up for yourself without standing on someone else and to love and respect yourself. This program will teach you how to be heard without shouting. Are you tired of being a people pleaser, worrying more about what others think of you instead of what really matters, which is what you think of yourself? You’ll want to pay special attention to Sessions 3, 4, 6, 7, 9, 12 and 13 in the Attacking Anxiety & Depression Program.
If you chose a 3 or 4 on statements 2,5,7,9, and 10, you have unrealistic expectations.
Having unrealistic expectations can make you very hard to live with, but the person that you are hardest on is YOU. We are not suggesting that you should have low expectations, rather reasonable, realistic ones. You can learn how to re-examine your shoulds, coulds and expectations. Pay special attention to Sessions 3,4, 8, 9 and 12 in the Attacking Anxiety & Depression Program.
If you chose a 3 or 4 on statements 2,8,10,12,13, and 15, you feel victimized and probably spend a lot of time looking outside yourself for the reasons.
You can learn to take control of your life and stop being a victim, stop blaming and instead think in healthy, productive ways. You can choose to be happy and peaceful. You are capable of learning how to take charge of your life. You’ll want to pay special attention to Session’s 2, 3, 6, 9, 10 and 14 in the Attacking Anxiety & Depression Program.
It is impossible to “be in control” at all times. Things are not always fair, however, people only take advantage of you when you let them. You can learn to be comfortable with the preceding statements. If you scored high on this inventory, you really need to change the way you think in order to minimize and eliminate some of your distress and anxiety. This program will teach you how to think and behave in a realistic, calm and healthy way. We are not born with coping skills and life management techniques-we must learn them. If stress and anxiety are disrupting your life, now is the time to pick up the life management skills that will lead to inner peace and productivity.