You expect the best from yourself. You want to look good, feel good, and be good at all times. You want to do everything well. You want to be treated the way you deserve to be treated, with kindness and respect.
You expect all the people in your life to be honest and sincere. You expect life to be fair. You expect good things to happen to good people and bad people to be punished. Right?
Sorry, the world isn’t perfect and neither are you. All too often, people who suffer from anxiety have unrealistic expectations. You can’t possibly be in control of everything at all times so you can’t always achieve exactly what you want. Things aren’t always fair and nothing is perfect. On a logical level this is easy to accept. On an emotional level however, we tend to forget about this.
So much of our anxiety is caused by not being able to live up to our own expectations, feeling that we should be able to do things that are either impossible or unrealistic. Yes, it’s important to set goals and go after them. But even when you give 100% things don’t always work out. And when things don’t happen we get discouraged. We think life isn’t fair and we want to give up.
Stop ‘shoulding’ on yourself. The best things in life don’t come quickly or easily. Instead of giving up when your expectations aren’t immediately met, this is the time to give it all you’ve got!
Success is likely just around the corner.